never enough hours in the day.

Yesterday i went to my friend Alex's funeral. It was soo heartbreaking and devastating that i still couldn't or didn't want to believe what was really happening. it hurt so bad to have to hear all the good things he has done and how everyone who filled that church was touched by him in many ways. I think it hurts me the most because we used to be really close and things happen and people drift apart for no apparent reason but because we DONT HAVE TIME. I even thought about him the other day and thought to myself that maybe i should myspace him just to see how everything is, and because I HAD NO TIME i was too late. I never got to say 'whats up, how are you?' hope you're doing okay.. what i had to say was, until we meet again Alex and i will never for get you, May you rest in peace. before leaving the cemetary, Shireen mentioned to me that he always asked about me when he saw her and asked if i still danced.. that warmed my heart because at lease i know in the midst of being too busy and having different friends and activities he still thought of me.

after going through this week of disbelief and sadness i was also happy to see all my friends from highschool especially my girl friends. we all felt hella bad that the only reason we were able to see each other 2 days in a row and sit down for lunch was because our friend passed away. it sucks that it has to be like that and i know i know it doesnt.. but even though we make efforts to meet someone up for lunch or go out for a shopping date theres NEVER ENOUGH TIME. i always seem to be caught up in working, dancing, school and as it is, it takes a lot of effort to keep up with my family, my boyfriend and friends i see on a daily. sometimes i go through practice not saying one word to people ill get there late and have to leave early and when i get home i feel empty..

i guess what im trying to get at is that i wana slow down in life. the constant thing i heard about alex throughout his funeral is that when he wanted to do something he wanted to do it to his best ability as long as hes having fun.. and i feel that i want to be able to enjoy my life and not be so busy and to keep updated with my friends and to hang out with my girls more often. it's hard i know, because ive tried this many times but this time it's really affected me and i really want to make more of an effort to MAKE TIME to HAVE TIME to call a friend, have lunch or just update.
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Slain man was helping friend

By: Tamara Barak Aparton
Examiner Staff Writer
04/19/09 3:28 PM

Friends and family members could always count on Alexander Apalit, an ambitious, affable 21-year-old who fixed their cars, helped them move and offered them rides.

It was Apalit’s desire to help, his family said, that led to him being fatally shot Saturday night near Balboa Park.

Apalit was a passenger in a vehicle traveling near Otsego and Santa Ynez avenues when a carload of young men in a dark, four-door sedan with tinted windows — possibly an Infinity Q35 — opened fire at 9:15 p.m., San Francisco police Sgt. Wilfred Williams said. Apalit died a short time later at San Francisco General Hospital. No arrests have been made.

Apalit’s mother said her son lived with his family in Daly City. He had been eating dinner with his cousin and a friend when the friend’s teenage brother called to say he was being chased in San Francisco by group of young men. The trio drove to The City and picked up the teen boy. The suspects gave chase in the sedan, firing four or five shots toward the car.

Apalit, who was sitting behind the driver, was shot in the chest.

His companions rushed him to the nearest emergency room, St. Luke’s, where his mother said he was turned away. He was taken by ambulance from St. Luke’s to San Francisco’s only trauma center, General Hospital.

“I’m really upset about that,” his mother said. “He was struggling, but he was still breathing when he was at St. Luke’s. They’re an emergency room; couldn’t they help him anyway?”

St. Luke’s spokesman Kevin McCormack said privacy laws prevented him from commenting, but he could not imagine the injured man would be turned away.

“Emergency rooms, by law, have to treat whoever comes in,” McCormack said. “They would be treated and stabilized and sent on somewhere else if appropriate. Obviously, the place to send someone in San Francisco with gunshot wounds is San Francisco General.”

Apalit grew up in The City and attended Sacred Heart Cathedral High School, where he played football and set a school record in the long jump. He had worked as an automotive technician since 2007. Last fall, Apalit and two cousins started a party-bus business, shuttling revelers to various nightclubs in The City, his mother said.

Police described the suspects as three young Hispanic men, including the car’s driver, who wore a green hooded sweatshirt, and a stocky man about 6-feet tall. A fourth suspect is described as a young black man with a dark complexion and dreadlocks. The description of a fifth suspect is unclear.

Anyone with information is asked to call the Police Department’s anonymous tip line at (415) 575-4444.

Other incidents in The City this weekend:

• At 4:30 p.m. Friday, police responded to reports of gunfire at Griffith Street and Navy Road in Bayview-Hunters Point, Sgt. Wilfred Williams said. Officers found 21-year-old Norris Bennett laying on the ground with multiple gunshot wounds. The San Francisco resident was pronounced dead by paramedics.
• Around 2:05 a.m. Saturday, police were called to the corner of Market and Noe streets after a fight and found a person suffering life-threatening injuries. That person was taken to a hospital, police Sgt. Mike Evanson said.
• Just minutes later, officers received a call of shots fired in SoMa. The victim, identified by the medical examiner as Richmond resident James Jamonte Turner, 23, was found laying on the sidewalk with gunshot wounds. Three men were seen running from the area, Williams said. Turner died at San Francisco General Hospital.
• Around 9:15 p.m. Saturday, 21-year-old Daly City resident Alexander Apalit was killed when a carload of young men opened fire into the vehicle he was riding in, Williams said.
• At 6 a.m. Sunday, three stabbing victims were taken to General Hospital after a fight broke out at the End Up nightclub at 401 Sixth St., according to police. All three men are expected to survive.
  

[Rest in Paradise Alexander Apalit. I still can't believe you're gone. we Love you very much and will never for get you.]